That Which Does Not Kill

That Which Does Not Kill

Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body.
~ Seneca

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Seneca was a great Roman Stoic who died in Italy in 65 CE. His teachings, like so much of the Stoic philosophy, had tremendous depth and impact on any who were willing to study and apply them.

On a regular basis Seneca would intentionally work a menial job (even though he didn’t have to), eat marginal food at best, and deliberately put himself in difficult situations.

He believed the benefits of this to be immense.

Nothing makes you more grateful for what you have then the times when you once had something, and then lost it.

It is not the man who has too little,
but the man who craves more, that is poor.

~ Seneca

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I know these principles first-hand given the last 10 years of my life; and maybe you know them as well, given the experiences of 2020.

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
~ Friedrich Nietzsche

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I went from a 7500 square foot estate in Beverly Hills to solitary confinement in an Arizona prison.

It doesn’t get much lower than that.

I went from multiple millions in net worth to $20M in debt. In the blink of an eye.

From being edified in the media to being crucified.

My so-called friends and colleagues disappeared like mist in the noon day sun.

Some of the clients, who just months earlier told me how I had “changed their life”, and how much they loved and appreciated me, testified under oath and lied about me. Some went into the media to vilify; and one even wrote a scathing book.

In 2013 I was $20M in debt, physically broken, alone, and literally homeless.

Your true wealth is not what you have.
Your true wealth is what you’re left with when all you have is gone.

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When you “need” something to be happy and fulfilled, then you’re truly poor.

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There’s a huge difference between “needs” and “wants.”
If we’re not careful, the things we once wanted, we begin to believe we need.
Wisdom is the realization that you actually need little,
for what you truly need you already have.

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Difficult times potentially build strength and wisdom. It is a choice. For we grow the most not when we’re smelling the roses and tasting the find wine.

We grow the most in the crucible of challenge.

Don’t wish for an easy life. That’s illusion.
Wish for greater capacity and capability to
get through the challenge’s life brings.

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Let’s face it, 2020 has been difficult to say the least; and yet what have you done with it?

If you lost your job, have you quickly reinvented and retooled?

Have you taken the opportunity to find something more suited to your purpose and love?

If you lost your savings, have you resolved that your true security resides not in your bank account or savings?

It should be obvious if you lost anything—it’s not secure. Nor does it bring security to you.

Your true security resides in your power to produce!

We grow the most not when we’re smelling the roses and tasting the find wine.
We grow the most in the crucible of challenge.

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Maybe God’s greatest gift are the difficulties thrust upon us.

I’m not Pollyanna enough to suggest that you like these tough times.

I often don’t like them either.

But I am suggesting that you learn to use the tough times. Then, you’ll like what tough times do for you; and the gifts they bring if you’ll only accept and embrace them.

Maybe Life and God’s greatest gift are the tough times.
When we have tough times, we must stop looking for answers outside.
And learn to find the answers deep inside.

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How are you doing?

There is no value in lying to yourself.

How can you do better and become better?

Your move.

Be a Leader. Live Your Purpose; and Take Your Power Back!


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