TRUE WEALTH IS AT YOUR FINGER TIPS NOW

I’d like to begin a new series with a topic that most of us at some point or another (if not incessantly), are interested in, concerned about or consumed with.

Let me start off by telling you in advance that I have a very different take on this topic than most. If you’re open-minded, and willing to consider things differently from your lifetime conditioning, you may find it quite enlightening and empowering.

So, let’s get started. We’ll cover each of these three topics and we’ll start with wealth first.

Ninety-nine percent of the people I’ve ever interviewed (actually 100% but I’m leaving a little margin for error), when asked to define “wealth,” instantly refer to some type of money and/or materialism. It’s interesting that this word has become collectively defined this way because truth be known, this is not what was originally intended. Nor is it the original definition.

You can go after the money and you might get rich

But that doesn’t mean you’ll be wealthy.

When you trace the root of the word wealth back to its origins it literally translates as wellbeing. Please read that again.

I’ve met and worked with countless individuals in my career who have a lot of house and money and car and yet they have slim to no wellbeing.

This is not true wealth.

I was mentoring a man a few years back who told me on our first call, “James I want to be successful.” I responded, Okay, tell me where you’re successful right now. He quickly replied, “I’m not successful. That’s what I need you to help me with.”

I said, Okay, I can do that, where are you successful right now? He replied (a bit frustrated now), “James you’re not listening to me! I’m not successful; and that’s why I need your help!”

How’s your health I asked. He said, “Great, I’ve never been in better shape in my life!” I said, how’s your relationship with your wife? He said, “It’s amazing. We’re more connected now than we’ve ever been.” Okay I said and how’s your daughter doing. “She’s great and she just got accepted to Brown University!”

I paused for a moment to let what he’d just told me sink into his awareness.

A light bulb went on and he said, “Okay, okay, I know where you’re going with this James but that’s not what I mean!

The fact is that my neighbor down the street makes multiple 6 figures and he just got my dream car. A brand new BMW 7 series!”

He was obviously a victim of the mass mentality.

I said, how’s his health? He paused and answered slowly and much more softly, “He just had a heart attack a few months back.” And his relationship with his wife? I continued. “They’re going through a nasty divorce right now.”

So who’s more successful? I asked.

“Okay” he said, “I get your point.”

Who’s more truly wealthy?

Long pause.

“Okay James… but I really want to achieve more in my life.”

You can; and I can help you. But first, I need you to realize that you become truly successful and wealthy the minute you’re grateful for what you have.

He had to think long and hard about this one.

It’s an interesting fact that when you’re grateful for what you have, Life tends to send you more to be grateful for.

Funny how that works.

However, since money is always a hot topic; and no matter what I say or write it’s always going to be… let’s talk strictly money for a moment.

“Money is just a convenient way of keeping score.”

~ Richard Branson

Money is nothing more than few things:

  • A measurement of your conscious awareness.
  • A measurement of the value you provide. Branson’s way of “keeping score.”
  • A magnifier.

Let’s discuss each of these separately…

Money is a measurement of your conscious awareness.

It takes a bigger thinker to make a larger amount of money. Now let’s please be clear… not a better thinker, a bigger thinker. Not one of us is “better” than another. We’ve all been given the same creative abilities as the other. But there are definitely bigger thinkers.

Someone who makes $50,000 per year (which by the way there’s nothing wrong with), will tend to have $50K per year ideas, take $50K per year actions, take typical $50K per year vacations, spend time with others who make around $50K per year, go to the same restaurants, workout facilities and social gatherings consisting primarily of $50K per year income earners.

Likewise someone who makes $100K per year will tend to do the same with their peers, as will $1,000,000 per year people and so forth.

So the first step in getting your financial pillar healthier (if that’s your intention) is to start thinking bigger. Start investing time with people who are far ahead of you in the area in which you wish to achieve more. Go to their clubs and social gatherings. Offer to assist them in some way.

This most often takes checking your ego at the door because if you have a high need to be “the smartest guy/gal in the room” you won’t be.

Become a student.

Become a servant.

Be humble but not groveling.

Focus on helping them not yourself. Please read those again.

Many would be greats that I have known were eternally stuck in “would be, could be” because of an unwillingness to do the things in the paragraph above.

Let that not be you.

By the way, if you think you can’t help them, think again. Everyone needs help.

You might just be surprised at what happens by osmosis; and how things begin to shift in your life.

Next, a measurement of the value you provide.

It’s an inarguable fact that you’ll be remunerated in direct relation to the value and service you provide. No more. No less. Actually, to be more specific… the perceived value or service you provide.

This perception of perceived value is directly related to what society holds in highest regard.

Why is it that professional NBA player makes an average of $5.15 million per year, while the average teacher makes approximately $45K per year?

Good, bad or indifferent… we obviously value entertainment much more highly in our society than we do education. Americans spend almost $11 billion dollars per year on movies. How much do you think they spend on books?

I think the answer is obvious.

As an educator I realized a long time ago that I must incorporate entertainment into my education if I even had a prayer of moving forward financially. Actually even a prayer of holding people’s attention!

Nonetheless, you’ll be paid in direct relationship to the value you provide. This topic is much more nuanced than we have space and time to cover here; and I’ve covered it in great detail elsewhere. (reference Habits of the Worlds Most Wealthy).

If money is your problem, money won’t solve your problem.

Finally, money is a magnifier. Money will not make you anything different than you currently are… it’ll just make you more of it.

Money will never solve worry or create happiness

Both are an inside game and must be solved and created by you.

I can promise you without doubt that if you worry about money when you have little… you’ll worry more when you have a lot.

The only people who worry about money more than the poor are the rich! Because the more money you have, the more opportunities you have…

To lose it!

If you think money will solve your issues, think again. Statistics show that 78% of all NFL players and 60% of all NBA players file bankruptcy within 5 years or less of retirement. Come to your own conclusions. It shouldn’t be too hard.

You think you want to win a quick lottery?

You think you want money to come fast and easy?

You don’t!

You’ll end up losing it all and being miserable in the process. Check statistics on lottery winners if you doubt me. 70% of people who come into fast money, including inheritance and lottery winners, lose it within 7 years or less.

Money will just magnify who you are. Money is only one fifth of the equation of true wealth; what I’ve coined as Harmonic Wealth® (more specifics on this to come), and while money is an important factor, it’s not the full picture.

How do you become truly wealthy?

Find your Innate Abilities and your unique purpose; and exploit them fully in the service of others. (reference Innate Ability Development™ series)

Focus on providing value above and beyond all else; and the money will take care of itself.

Winners always provide ten times more value then they ask for in return

More to come; and the journey continues…

Stay Awake, Love Life, and Be Epic,

james arthur ray

James

 

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7 Responses

  1. James! I look forward to your Monday morning blog posts. Sets up my week and provides much more than 100 times the time spent.

    You can go after the money and you might get rich. But that doesn’t mean you’ll be wealthy. – JAR

    Being grateful for what we have is the ability to be present to where one is right now. Attempting to get anywhere from some place other than right here, right now, where you are is the quickest way to become lost and you will never arrive at your destination.

    The definition of ‘goal’ is an event or location towards which play is directed in order to score. Collapsing goal and score eliminates play. Not having any fun? Make the goal and the score distinct from each other again.

    I would love to help everyone. If it is my job, I have failed. I cannot only not teach rocks to talk, I cannot teach rocks anything. Rocks however have taught me many lessons.

    If money is your problem, money won’t solve your problem. – JAR

    WOW. I will say this to many people from now on!!!

    I can promise you without doubt that if you worry about money when you have little… you’ll worry more when you have a lot. – JAR

    Give everything away, or sell what you can, keep only the barest essentials and give away everything else. Beginning from a ‘clean start’ is exhilarating and then follow the ‘bread crumbs’, listen to your heart and trust your gut. Stop making decisions with whatever you call your mind. Sometimes I forgot the point is to be notoriously happy, no matter what but the humor always is present and where to look.

    Always provide ten times more value then asked for. When I wrote out checks, I haven’t paid with one in over ten years, I always added VR=10X in the comment field. Value Received is 10 times the amount. If you cannot say that about whatever you are paying for, what does that say about you? If you can declare 10x you will begin to find 100x and more also.

    I appreciate the coaching more than I can say. Thank you James.

  2. Thanks For Reminding us of what is really important ……… and that money can’t buy what’s really needed to be happy …… we all can develop tunnel vision …….. concentrating on what we don’t have instead of what we do …….. and its also obvious money can’t buy the impt things in life after they have been lost.

  3. James,
    Great blog. Really put my life in perspective. I still want to make money but now if I don’t I would be happy enough knowing my family is healthy and happy. I get what you mean that you have to be patient. You said “The master can stand with no results longer.” It’s the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life. Learning to be more humble, working with people you don’t like, and having doubts of maybe your wasting your time? I keep thinking about the “price for the prize”. James you got a gift. At first when you got out of jail.
    Thanks for all that you do.
    David

    1. Thanks David and yes it is the hardest thing you’ll ever do. True faith is NOT continuing when you see a light at the end of the tunnel… true faith and test of character is continuing when you don’t see the light. Keep the faith ~ JAR

  4. I look at money as just something that gives you more options…no more, no less.

  5. Wow James, last week´s article and this one have been a real bomb to me, thanks very much indeed!

    I guess we all have different aspects we need to polish and re-study but this has been (to me) one of the most intense articles since I had to re-read them several times, I guess here lies the holes I need to cover.

    Thank you for these timely lessons.

    My deepest gratitude,

    Your friend,

    Hector

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