HOW TO INCREASE YOUR INCOME AND FULFILLMENT

When people ask me how to make more money I tell them the fastest way is to forget about money; and focus on providing value. Most don’t listen.

We live in a very interesting time in our world history. I suppose this could be stated about any time in history from some perspective.

Yet I firmly believe that we’re currently at the end of an era. Writing in my journal this morning I wrote “We live in a parenthesis between this era and the next. The gap between the last era and the new era. A time of great unrest, insecurity, and lack of fulfillment.”

Gallup tells us that fully 71% of people surveyed, nearly ¾ of the population, are completely unhappy and unfulfilled with their work. Staggering.

Yet how are we addressing this?

Like children.

To find the answer, we must step back and approach our entire life from a completely different perspective than we have in the past. While many, if not most, are still following job markets and economic indicators to tell them the next move to make, the wise are busy creating their own job market and economic indicators.

While most are chasing money and materialism alone, the wise are finding meaning and allowing the money to follow.

If you’re asking “what will sell” to make your next move you’re asking the wrong question. Ask instead, “What major gift and genius do I have that will help the world solve a major problem.” be_unique_by_silentlylucid

Still others, instead of looking at market and economic indicators, are following their social programming like a bunch of droids to the slaughter.

Soon to end up in the spare parts bin.

What do I mean?

How many people do you find in your Facebook feed currently telling you how to make “millions” by becoming the next bestselling author, professional speaker, internet marketer, network marketing sensation or countless other get rich quick pitches?

How many of those peddling these programs can point to even a handful of people who, following their advice, have become what they’re promising?

Many can’t even point to one!

In fact, how many of them have actually even done for themselves what they’re claiming to teach you to be able to do?

Are you sure?

Yet we continue to pursue what society tells us is sexy or exciting don’t we? Living in a time of discontent, most are running after fast fame, simple success and get-rich-quick glory.

With no skills or ability whatsoever to achieve the things they seek, they’re destined only to be disappointed yet once again.

If you want to make a billion dollars, solve a $10 billion dollar problem!

I coach people every single week who are making six figures or more per year and they’re completely happy and unfulfilled. I recognize that if 6 figures is far outside your current universe, you may find it hard to believe that they could be unhappy.

Yet it’s true nonetheless.

Money will never bring you happiness; if you’re not happy without money you’ll be unhappy with it.

The belief that any internal state is created externally is part of your low level socialized programming as well.

I coach people every single week of my life making six figures or more per year and yet they’re completely unhappy and unfulfilled.
Life is not about money it’s about meaning.

Words to the wise.

So can we have both? Money and fulfillment at the same time as the title suggests?

No!

Just messing with you.

Of course you can.

I likewise have plenty of coaching clients who are making 6-7 figures and they absolutely love what they do. Their days are filled with fulfillment and purpose and passion and flow.

Don’t start a company unless it’s an obsession and something you love.
If you have an exit strategy it’s not an obsession.
~ Mark Cuban

While Cuban’s quote sounds sexy and exciting, it must be more granularly nuanced in my experience.

You see Cuban is doing what he has the natural skills and ability to do.

Read the above again. It’s critical to understand and embrace.

And this is where it gets really dicey.

Cuban finding his Magnificent Obsession doesn’t mean he doesn’t work hard. He does. His work ethic is legendary. But he began in a field where he’s naturally gifted and developed his genius to a level of mastery.

I remember coaching a coach last year. I actually do a lot of this. A truly good coach realizes that he or she needs the same guidance and support they encourage their clients to get.

Good teachers always have teachers.

Good coaches have their own coaches.

If they don’t, then they’re not good coaches, teachers and mentors.

She on the other hand was not a good coach. Sorry to say but true nonetheless.

Do you want to be completely happy and fulfilled?
Find something you’re naturally good at; and then work with every ounce of energy you have to become great at it.

She had all the certificates and certifications.

She had been to every training on the planet.

But she’s not meant to be a coach.

She’s doesn’t have the grit, determination, intuition, or great communication skills necessary. Most of all she doesn’t have the self-confidence.

She’s a product of mass marketing and the mass programming that certain things are booming and growing and “boy wouldn’t it be cool to be or do that?”

Maybe.

It might suck.

Working hard for something you aren’t meant to do and don’t love is miserable. Working hard for what you love is magical.

You see the vast majority of people have very few of their own ideas. What you think of as your own ideas are nothing more that socialized beliefs and values. Think about this one. Think really hard.

Most people have very few values, beliefs, assumptions, even ideas of their own. What they think are their ideas are nothing more than the output of a programmed and limited social operating system.follow-the-leader

What do you really want?

Be careful that you really know what you want before you answer. You may think you do, but chances are great that you don’t.

You most likely don’t even know who you are much less what you want.

What do you have natural skills, inclinations and abilities to achieve?

Caution once again.

Most people I coach making 6 to 7 figures per year have climbed the ladder that they thought to be success, only to find it leaning against the wrong wall.

Most people I coach climb the ladder they defined as success
and find it leaning against the wrong wall.
Do you have the courage to think, really think, for yourself?

Even when you have the skills needed, they must be developed. This takes years even decades. Then they must be marketed, organized, systematized and sold.

Bottom line, even when you find your unique genius and gifts you have to work hard and persevere. To believe anything else is to buy a bill of goods.

Please don’t go into any business or industry just because someone else has done well there. You’ll be sorely disappointed and disillusioned. Ask yourself, “What unique gifts and abilities do I have that I can develop to a level of mastery; and then use them in the service of others?” 

This “coach” was miserable and confused. A member of the 71% club and wondering where she went wrong. The answer was glaringly obvious to me.

Unfortunately many don’t appreciate the truth when they hear it.

My job as a coach is not to make you feel better, it’s to make you be better.
I know that when you become better you’ll automatically feel better.depressed_woman_sitting_deep_in_thought

Modern science now tells us what the mystics have told us for centuries. Basically that you’re a microcosm of the macrocosm.

In other words, you live in the universe, but the universe lives just as equally in you. This is no longer limited to the realm of the mystic.

With every single breath you take you take in millions of the same oxygen atoms that Leonardo da Vinci, Plato, Jesus, Albert Einstein and others before you breathed.

You have access to unlimited information and abilities. You have barely scratched the surface of your potential.

Yet you have to work in concert with The Plan.

The Plan was given to you when you came into this life. You maybe are still not consciously aware of The Plan (most aren’t), but it’s there waiting and compelling you nonetheless.

To access The Plan you have to first and foremost think for yourself.

You have to step back and study the most important thing you can study in this entire multiverse; and that thing is YOU. For when you know yourself you thereby know the universe as well.

I work with my clients at finding their unique gifts and genius first. I call this Beginning at the Beginning.

Ask yourself;

  1. What is it that I’ve been attracted to since the time of my early childhood?
  2. Where do I have natural abilities and skills; and I always have?
  3. What’s the single most important thing to me in my life? Why?
  4. If money were no issue, what productive activity would I spend my days involved in doing? Why?

When you answer these qualities honestly, which most likely will take some doing, you may begin the process of starting to think for yourself.

You may start the process of aligning with The Plan.

Stay Awake, Love Life, and Be Epic!

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James

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